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One more blessing.

We’ve had so many beautiful words of condolence. I don’t think I’ll be posting anymore blessing, I can’t take anymore and you probably can’t either. However this final blessing tore me up. So here it is.

A blessing for Roxanne Carris

The Gaelic blessing below was given to us at our wedding by my best man. Six years later and our friend Patrick suggested the same blessing for Roxie to help her little soul safely to the other side. Separately I had chosen a piece of music for the funeral, Attendite, performed by the Libera Boys Choir. And the lyrics? Yes, the words from the same blessing…perfect.

Dr Seuss for Roxie

During G’s pregnancy I was reading Dr. Seuss stories to Roxie. Here’s an excerpt from his last story “Oh the Places You’ll Go” published in 1990. This was read by G’s sister at Roxie’s funeral.

Letter to the head of our community.

Dear G*****,

Thank you for agreeing to help us with the funeral of our baby girl, Roxanne. We understand it is a lot to ask and we are very grateful and honored for your assistance.

Please do not think we are asking you to be a minister or priest, we understand completely that this is unusual for you, we ask only that you can offer some words on behalf of yourself and all the other residents of P******.

My poor baby girl is dead.

I’ve spent the last year and a half on a journey of what I hoped would be self improvement. I gave up the booze, I’ve tried to be a good husband, I’ve learnt to control many of my fears and I’ve prepared myself for being a father. This blog was all part of the process.

Having the discipline to write, just write without too much judgement, without trying to prove anything, to just put it out there and keep putting it out there.