I used to go to therapy, group therapy. It was very helpful during two very difficult periods. My therapist was excellent. I’ve wanted to let her know how I’ve been getting on for some time. And to send some support to the members of the group who are there now. This is my letter.
The Gaelic blessing below was given to us at our wedding by my best man. Six years later and our friend Patrick suggested the same blessing for Roxie to help her little soul safely to the other side. Separately I had chosen a piece of music for the funeral, Attendite, performed by the Libera Boys [...]
We were very moved by this blessing for grief. The moving and poignant words were read for us at the funeral of our baby, Roxanne. They were written by the Irish poet and philosopher John O’Donohue and come from his book of blessings called Benedictus.
Of course we are not alone in our grief and we share our sadness with David Cameron who lost his six year old son yesterday and with Gordon Brown who also lost his daughter back in 2001 just a few days after she was born.
I’ve spent the last year and a half on a journey of what I hoped would be self improvement. I gave up the booze, I’ve tried to be a good husband, I’ve learnt to control many of my fears and I’ve prepared myself for being a father. This blog was all part of the process. [...]