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An angel never dies.

One more blessing.

We’ve had so many beautiful words of condolence. I don’t think I’ll be posting anymore blessing, I can’t take anymore and you probably can’t either. However this final blessing tore me up. So here it is.

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A long over due letter to my therapist.

I used to go to therapy, group therapy. It was very helpful during two very difficult periods. My therapist was excellent. I’ve wanted to let her know how I’ve been getting on for some time. And to send some support to the members of the group who are there now. This is my letter.

A blessing for Roxanne Carris

A blessing for Roxanne Carris

The Gaelic blessing below was given to us at our wedding by my best man. Six years later and our friend Patrick suggested the same blessing for Roxie to help her little soul safely to the other side. Separately I had chosen a piece of music for the funeral, Attendite, performed by the Libera Boys [...]

John O'Donohue - Irish Poet & Philosopher

Thoughts on grief from John O’Donohue

We were very moved by this blessing for grief. The moving and poignant words were read for us at the funeral of our baby, Roxanne. They were written by the Irish poet and philosopher John O’Donohue and come from his book of blessings called Benedictus.

Gordon Brown’s words of condolence to David Cameron

Gordon Brown’s words of condolence to David Cameron

Of course we are not alone in our grief and we share our sadness with David Cameron who lost his six year old son yesterday and with Gordon Brown who also lost his daughter back in 2001 just a few days after she was born.

Letter to the head of our community.

Letter to the head of our community.

Dear G*****, Thank you for agreeing to help us with the funeral of our baby girl, Roxanne. We understand it is a lot to ask and we are very grateful and honored for your assistance. Please do not think we are asking you to be a minister or priest, we understand completely that this is [...]

My poor baby girl is dead.

My poor baby girl is dead.

I’ve spent the last year and a half on a journey of what I hoped would be self improvement. I gave up the booze, I’ve tried to be a good husband, I’ve learnt to control many of my fears and I’ve prepared myself for being a father. This blog was all part of the process. [...]

Getting it right as a first time father.

Getting it right as a first time father.

I’m no daddy blogger but I think I can be forgiven a few posts on upcoming fatherhood. With only a few weeks to go thoughts turn to the birth. How will I cope? Male friends have been pretty hopeless on the subject of pregnancy, childbirth and fatherhood in general. “You’re never going to sleep again” [...]